Have you ever thought something was obvious, only to learn others don’t see it that way?
I have 🙃.
Our personal experiences shape our point of view. Similarly, others’ personal experiences shape their point of view.
When we look at things this way, it’s easy to understand why people can have completely different theories and beliefs about the same problem.
Stories can lead to misunderstandings
We may think we understand what the problem is or what’s going on in a given situation – it may seem “obvious” to us. As a result, we may make up stories about what’s happening and those who don’t see things our way.
It’s easy to make up stories, especially when they validate our point of view and experience, but they are just our version of reality. Different people experience different realities based on their personal experiences.
Making up stories often leads to misunderstandings.
“Sometimes people come into conflict not because they disagree, but because they fundamentally misunderstand each other.” – Dave Gray
One of the most powerful and effective things leaders can do is to try and understand how different people see things before coming to a conclusion about a problem.
This requires curiosity and empathy, but there is wisdom in second-guessing what we see as obvious.
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